Tuesday, 1 January 2013

Change the Mentality

I am writing this article in a situation where everyone I love to read is talking about women security and empowerment. Some of them have used harsh words and measures. Some wrote them in anger, frustration and some still thinking logically. Even I wish to express my views on the burning topic but there is nothing left to say. Everything which I will write and mesmerize the readers will be something I liked in my fellow blogger. I have packed my mind with such great statements and explicit lines that it always diverts my mind to them and I can’t think of anything new. I can’t even suppress my feelings to pin down something on it and let people know that even I care about the situation. Though I have an option, I should better give suggestions to improve the situation than fighting on it.

A lot needs to be changed in the system, all, police, government and legislature. I prefer a much easier suggestion. Change the mentality of the people. Now it sounds a much easier task with solutions like moral education, counseling, etc. Yes, that’s all what is needed to be done and it will surely eradicate this problem like a cat removes rats from the room. However, I would like you all to take a closer look at the problems. Some of them are –

        1) Eve teasing – Everyone is familiar with this term. Eve teasing is the less offensive meaning of sexual harassment which is committed by lower mentality persons to fulfill their sexual urge. All of us wish it to be stopped but is there any guy who has not done it and is at the age of above 20. Many of you reading it would be happy that you are not one of those criminal minded person so let’s have a look at the things which are considered as eve teasing.
·         Gesticulating obscene signals
·         Staring/Leering
·         Calling/ messaging after unnecessarily or asking for dates constantly desite refusing.
·         Touching
·         Winking / Pinching
·         Singing songs / Passing double meaning comments
·         Calling Obscene nicknames such as sexy, patakha, bomb, phuljhari, etc.
·         Following on vehicle / Honking against you deliberately
·         Making kissing sounds
·         Stalking

These things are not even considered as bad these days. Guys even of good reputed families can be easily seen doing this in a group of friends. If still there is a guy there who has never done this is telling a lie. He may not have done it but he supported his friends to do it by still staying there. We need to stop eve teasing. I don’t know how to stop it neither I could think of suggesting something. I want to find out some measures but till then I will try my best not to be involved in eve teasing ever.

  2) A guy and a girl together are lovers. Every time we see a teenage guy and girl roaming around on bike or enjoying at a theatre/ restaurant, the first impression, we think them to be lovers. Why can’t we just let them be friends or even worse brother and sister? This may not seem to be a serious problem but that’s how our mentality is. We have rotten our mindset. How can such a brain be made to understand better things when we are still not letting ourselves go of such simple things.

  3) Ego – Almost 90% of the boys in India cannot still take defeat from a girl. They may think and say themselves to be modern mentality but they don’t even know when they are doing this thing. Every time they propose a girl and hear a NO, in 90% cases it’s not love but rejection from a girl which hurts them. They don’t prefer to be house-husbands after the birth of their child even though their wife may have a higher income. So, they allowed the wives to work and keep caretakers for the child.

  4) Space & Easiness – Teenagers these days think it cool to do stuff with friends which they don’t think it to be ethical in-front of their parents. These idiots think that starting every line with slang, drinking, smoking, having lots of gf/bf, giving extreme statements on every burning topic makes you look like a dude. The problem is that world is filled with such filthy mentality people and people with reasonable thinking are thought to be dumb. According to me the problem lies at space given to these kids at home. Friends are just another set of idiots who can’t help. Parents have passed this stage and will surely come out with solutions to change this thinking. The only problem that lies is that Indian family system is too cozy to talk on such issues with their kids. Another situation where I don’t know how to change this mentality of the generation above me.

  5) Wrong is wrong – If your child is doing something wrong, stop him right there. You may shower love and affection and let him follow his heart but what you don’t realize is you are the worst parent. Restricting your child’s wants and letting him know about right and wrong is as important as thinking about his safety. Kids spoiled like this are the ones who can’t handle rejections or will do anything to get the thing (person) they want. Sometimes things which is fun for them turns out to be disasters for others.

Some of you may think that these are not related to the current problem, others may contradict. All I want is to say that change the way of thinking of the people and make it a better place. Criminals and people with such thoughts are a bitter truth of society and it’s impossible to remove them. However, we can ensure that we are not giving them boost in any way. Making the society a better one is all that is needed right now.


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